Hi people,
Happy New Month to you all (it’s not so new but oh well!). This post is just to let you all know that I am alive and well. A number of people have been bb-ing and emailing me to ask wassup with my blog. Well blame it on work. Blame in Lagos life.
Living and working in Nigeria has made it a bit hard for me to sit down and concentrate. Plus, I love to blog about what’s going on in my life but then again, it’s all work work work and I really doubt that you would be very interested in it. Hence, my silence. Plus, I’m yet to renew my Starcomms subscription-I’m turn between MTN and Starcomms. So for a few days, I have been depending solely on BB and office internet.
I miss blogging. I miss high internet speed. I miss watching Nollywood movies on YouTube. I miss a whole lot of things. I am happy to be in Nigeria though. It’s a very different kinda experience and I’m looking forward to life here and what God has in store for me.
I’m at work but thought to steal a few minutes to let y’all know I’m still very much around. Before I go, I want to open up two debates. The first is a real life drama whilst the other is from the recent Genevieve movie, ‘Tango with me’.
Real Life:
Tola joined a firm in VI three weeks ago. The very day she started work, her co-worker, Wole went out of his way to make her feel welcome. She thought he was just being friendly and so when he asked for her bb pin she did not hesitate to give him. That turned out to be a mistake. Two days after she started, he went on leave for 2 weeks. Throughout his leave, he bombarded her with messages of how he had fallen in love with her and wanted them to date. Like what the actual hell?!!!
Now, I understand the principle of catching them young but this is just ludicrous. I have seen his chats with her. She ignores his messages constantly so they show ‘R’ which means they have been read. Yet, as if her lack of interest in him is not clear enough, he keeps pinging her endlessly.
How would you advise her? Should she ignore the incidents, delete him and just be civil to him upon his return or should she call him out, warning him never to try such again? How would you act?
TANGO WITH ME:
My friend and I went to see ‘Tango with me’ last week. When I saw the poster and all, I thought it was going to be a fun, romantic movie. How wrong could I have been! It was a very intense movie-right from the start. I’ll give you enough information not to spoil it for those who are yet to see it:
Lola and Uzo are the perfect couple, their newly married life in front of them. All is well until the happiest day of their lives became the worst. Lola gets raped on her wedding day and becomes pregnant with the violator’s offspring. Uzo insists on her aborting it. She thinks that would be a sin that makes her just as bad as her rapist. She keeps the child. Uzo freaks out and refuses to have anything to do with her. Their marriage hits the rocks.
Now, what do you think she should have done differently, if anything? Was it right for her to keep the child of a rapist? NB: She was a virgin and was raped in the hotel on her wedding night. She and her husband had never consummated the marriage? Was Uzo right in freaking out and becoming mean to her? Was she insensitive to him?
Share your thoughts…
Random Gist:
I’m watching Big Brother Africa and that has been quite interesting so far. There are two Nigerian representatives-one is fone speaking and has said she does not speak pidgin. Her name is Vina and here she is:
The other is brash and loud (has loadsa piercings, about 10 tattoos and has had a breast augmentation). She is Karen
Should be fun!
Anyways, that is all people for now. Have a lovely weekend!
Temiville.xoxo
criistalpure
May 06, 2011 @ 09:09:04
yaaay!!! first! finally something to read, been wondering why you havent updated.Anyways, Tango with me was beautiful movie, Lola is a strong woman and she prove her strenght by keeping a child sired by her violator. I’m pretty sure it was a tough call, but in the end she was consoled, Uche came realised his mistakes and sought absolution.
I learnt that rage, anger and every other negative emotion that causes one to act irrational should be avoided. If Uche wasnt consumed with rage, he would hav been able to understand her predicament. While its okay to be furious,we should all know when it is overwhelming.
Above all, God is great, your situation might be too much for you to bear but know that his mercy and greatness is and will forever be with us.
MzLucyM
May 06, 2011 @ 09:32:08
Hahahaha@ d bba post! love dis!thumbs up
Seye Kuyinu
May 06, 2011 @ 15:57:42
Hahaha! Welcome to Nigeria. I prefer using MTN’s internet though there are download limits so don’t think of watching youtube movies. 😛
The truth is internet speeds between various internet service providers is dependent on the location. My personal internet is good at home and terrible at work.
Myne Whitman
May 06, 2011 @ 17:23:41
Nice to know you’re Ok, as for Tola, she should tell the guy what she really feels and block him.
I guessed from the trailer of tango with me what it was about. I think communication is key in such a scenario. Would love to watch the movie.
shanday
May 06, 2011 @ 20:25:14
Tola should put the guy in his place. She should tell the guy to stop being a bugaboo.
As for the Tango movie, it’s one of those dicey situations. I think keeping the child was the rite thing to do cus the child is innocent and should be given a chance regardless of d situation.I guess Uche couldn’t bear any reminder of the rape situation and for him, the child was a reminder. He should have been more understanding of the situation rather than being upset cus his wife had already gone through a traumatic experience. To be frank, it’s easier said than done but God’s grace is sufficient to bring something good out of a bad situation
Cheers,
http://www.shanday.wordpress.com
Es Tee
May 07, 2011 @ 13:06:26
OMG…what a sad story, the movie, I mean. Imma be completely honest here..God forbid that such happen but as much as I’m anti-abortion, I don’t think I’d want to keep the child of a rapist. Dunno if that’ll be a sin in the sight of God but really, how can you hold a child knowing that it’s a product of someone violating and abusing your dignity? Really sad sturvs mehn. May we never experience such. It’s understandable that the husband doesn’t want her keeping the baby but he should be more sensitive considering what she’s been through. It wasn’t like it was her fault or she asked for it. It’s a really tough situation for both of them to be in, but with God, I’m sure they’ll get through it.
As for your friend, I think she should delete him from her BB and tell him straight up that she’s not interested and that he’s a bit of a freak. lol. Ok, the latter part, maybe not in so many words but still, she should let him know that his “obsession” freaked her out and is a complete turn-off. If anything, it might help him in his future ventures.lol
happyhilly
May 20, 2011 @ 00:06:04
… help him in his future ventures. lol. It sure will
the chikoo
May 09, 2011 @ 13:52:25
I found ur blog via a comment u left at bella naija and its been so inspiring.u are so reaal and u love God which for me is a huge plus.
I LOVE U!
temiville
May 09, 2011 @ 14:21:11
Aww thanks so so much boo.xoxoxo
Purpleicious Babe
May 10, 2011 @ 21:23:42
I wana watch the movie saw the trailer on BN… Wow didnt think she got raped…??? that must be emosh..