Hi guys!
How are you all doing? I’m very well here and so so excited! This is my last free week! Whoop whoop! I resume on Monday and I CANNOT wait. I’m so happy to have somewhere to go each morning. Have something to do, complain about LASTMA, crazy drivers etc. I really do feel bad for people who are stuck home doing nothing. That must really suck!
Hope you’ve been enjoying my regular posts *pats self on back* I decided to do as much writing as my God and my coffee can inspire me now that I am free and I have had so much fun tuning out and just typing my mind. The joys of writing. Inexplicable. I’d love to tell you that it will keep being this way but I what I definitely say is that I’ll do ALL I can to avoid dry spells and to keep making this your go to website for original, inspiring and thought provoking pieces which focus on God and how we can navigate this life.
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I discovered a series called For Better or Worse by Tyler Perry. Remember Angela and Marcus from Why Did I Get Married? This focusses on their lives. I saw 2 whole seasons non stop two days ago. Totally amazing stuff!
Enjoy today’s post!
A few days ago, I saw a friend’s status update: How do you tell the difference between giving someone who has hurt you a second chance or giving them an extra bullet to shoot you since they missed the first time?
I thought about it for a while. It’s so true that not everyone deserves a second chance because they will become repeat offenders. So how does one tell the difference? How do you tell the truly repentant from the one who just wants to dust himself up and try again…to hurt you! Does that cheating girlfriend really deserve to be taken back? Should the thieving househelp not be sent packing? Should you keep giving that Associate important assignments when they keeping on giving you shoddy work?
This is different from forgiveness which to me, means no longer harbouring bitterness against a person for their wrongdoing. You can forgive alright but do forgiving and forgetting mean you keep letting the offender in? Would this not be stupidity?
What do you guys think of it all?
Temiville.xoxo
Musings of a Caramel Latte Addict 
Nov 08, 2012 @ 11:32:23
I don’t think there’s a straight forward answer to this but then there are just some offences that shouldn’t be given the chance to recur.
For example, an abusive relationship shouldn’t be continued on the hope that the patner will change upon marriage.
I am a Christian so I can’t even afford to hold grudges, but you know what they say…
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice…
Nov 08, 2012 @ 11:50:19
Well, I think it’s all a function of grace and how much one can handle. Personally, I’m not a fan of break-ups and hook-ups; once a relationship is ended for whatever reason, it should remain so even if the parties concerned forgive each other etc. we can be friends. Good enough. Of course, I believe in forgiveness. But if someone is bent on hurting you (hurting you repeatedly), I mean, it’s only logical to let go and walk away. It’d do you both good. Whether is an unrepentant lover, friend, colleague etc I’d love (agape) you, cause I owe you that, but I’m likely to steer clear. Abeg, no need to turn my heart to a shooting alley o..
Nov 08, 2012 @ 12:15:15
People should not be so quick to accept those category of people back because it’s only a little percentage of them that are repentant. Look out for the change don’t let the person tell you otherwise, they will come back with ten more demons to torment you.
Nov 08, 2012 @ 17:24:33
You can forgive and forget, but remain wise. If it is a romantic relationship, it is possible the person has not changed even if they apologized, in that case don’t make the mistake of wanting to go back.
Nov 09, 2012 @ 20:55:30
This is a really dicey issue and it all depends on individual traits or personality. In life/society, certain offenses weigh more than others and attract different kinds of punishments. While it’s easy to forgive a person who stole your meat – even though the person might steal it again tomorrow, it might be difficult to do the same to your boyfriend who impregnated your sister.
The key here is consistency with your morals and how you prioritize them. If you’re a Christian you’d believe in Grace, Forgiveness and Mercy. But can you follow through by giving a second chance to the murderer of your only son just like you forgave your meat stealer?
On how to tell the difference. I let each person decide on this one, unless the answer is so glaring that it’d take a glob of sunscreen to protect you from the truth rays!
Nov 16, 2012 @ 15:29:26
There isnt an ABC to this. It’s subject to the situation, it’s pecularities and the individuals involved.
The tenacity for resolution of abuse or conflict in a marriage will be different from that of a relationship.
The ideology behind handling a subordinate who constantly messes up important jobs will be different from the ideology of handling a landlord who causes pain to the your family./
Wisdom has never been so important than in situations that would need you to forgive and…
In search of the series ‘For Better or Worse’ *putting-on-hunting-gear*…
Nov 17, 2012 @ 17:53:50
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Nov 17, 2012 @ 22:54:33
I just go with what Sleeick Inc. Said.
It also depends on how you feel, that particular moment.
There’s no law bounding this. if your mind gives a second chance, give it. If your mind dont, then dont.
Thanks
Nov 18, 2012 @ 21:28:23
I found your blog from the Nigerian blog awards, was trying to network with other blogs and I am happy I decided to visit your blog. Thought provoking post you made there. I really do not think there is a concrete Arsenal to this but there are certainly some offences that do not deserve a second chance. However, I think whoever is at the receiving end is best to decide whether he or she is ready to give it another go/chance or not.
Great blog mate, will find your feeds and subscribe to it.