These days, I’ve been faced with the pressure of making extremely important personal decisions. I have been at crossroads where I would debate within myself, Temi what do you do? I have been wondering: should I proceed or should I stay put? Should I surrender or should I keep fighting? Everyone faces these type of decision-making phase where you realise that you are no longer a child and it is now time to make potentially life-altering choices. It could be deciding whether to take that job or leave it and travel abroad for your MSc. It could be saying ‘yes’ to the available guy or chilling, hoping a better one would turn up. It could even be seemingly simple ones like ‘should I travel by road or by air?’, ‘should I drive or should I take the bus?’ Making a wrong turn could be very detrimental, hence, the importance of getting it right.

Knowing where you should be and what you should be doing helps avert delay and errors in life. Fine, after much arodan and wandering about in an Israelite journey, you might eventually reach your destination. But would it not have been better to have gotten it right the first time? There are some heart-aching experiences that can easily be averted because they are simply not worth going through. We cannot afford to gamble with our destinies. Hence, the importance of seeking God’s face concerning most every decision before us.

Life is way too complex to pass through without God’s guidance. Asking for divine guidance shortens our years of running around in circles. For instance, imagine Ladi, a 26 year old who has been looking for jobs to no avail. He has made 35 job applications and not one has been successful. They have been either out right rejections at the application stage or he had been knocked off at the interview stage. He is frustrated, understandably and has decided to travel abroad (South Africa) in search of greener pastures.

But because Ladi never ascertained the wisdom in this from God, he will always live an ‘unsure’ life, doubting his every move. If on getting to South Africa, no jobs are available, he might wonder,’maybe God never approved of my coming here and this is a sign from Him’. Also, if he had persevered in Nigeria without praying, he would forever wonder, ‘maybe I should have grabbed the opportunity to travel when it arose’. This is not an enviable position to be in.

Being certain of God’s will means you know to trust and obey where He has placed you. You stay or go where He has asked you to and even if things are not going rosy, you never second-guess your decision. You weather the storm knowing full well that you are where you should be and that ‘this too shall pass’.

Likewise, if you entered into a relationship with that girl or guy with the full assurance of God’s backing, even if things are going rough, you can be sure that there is no need to break up. But when you never got a ‘go ahead’, you begin to contemplate all sorts whenever anything goes wrong. Everything becomes a potential ‘sign from God’. Even when you are bold enough to get married to that person, you never stop questioning yourself if something is not quite right. You think, ‘abi I was never supposed to marry this guy, Is this proof that I made the wrong choice?’

However, when you are sure of whose instruction you are following, you can forge ahead boldly knowing that ‘faithful is He who has promised (Hebrews 10: 23). If He sent you there, His grace will cover you, no matter what. It is not about living a problem-free life, it is about leading a purpose-driven life such that every step you take is sure. You are not easily swayed by ‘what is in vogue’. You won’t go applying to study Petroleum Management because ‘that is what people say employers now want’ neither would you be in a hurry to do something because ‘all my friends are doing it’. You would be secure. You would be confident knowing everything is working together for your good.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.



Order my steps in Your Word

I need to read this post again as I contemplate the choices before me…




My friend shared something with me today and I thought to share it with you guys too. This beautiful young woman, Camille Allen, 30, resides in Powell River, in British Columbia, Canada.

She is married with no children yet but she makes babies. No, she’s isn’t a surrogate mum. She is a skilful artist who sculpts babies!!!

Are they not breath-takingly beautiful?

That’s all folks (for now)


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