I LOL at myself as I write this post. It’s going to be a really quick and unedited one. Here goes…
I am seriously considering a destination wedding, maybe I’ll be getting married in The Bahamas. This is my proposed list of attendees:
- Myself
- My fiancé
- My dad
- My mom
- First brother
- Second Brother
- Third Brother
- Fourth Brother
- Fiancé’s six or max 8 guests consisting of IMMEDIATE family members
- One Chief bridesmaid and one Best man (no entourage)
- The officiating Pastor
We will now come back and have an intimate reception with just 50 REAL friends and family at a lovely venue in Lagos. If you are a family member or friend and you have to remind me that I was this short when we last saw, you are NOT invited. It is a wedding not a reunion!
No husband YET o but when I looked at a wedding planner’s excel spreadsheet and all, I lolled! Hahaha. Even if I had so much money, I would just jejely use it to buy a house/put money down on mortgage, invest in property, set up a fund for my kids’ education at Cambridge and Harvard or do something else. 3 million for a cake?!!!! Cake that is not even nice , lol (I hate fruit cakes) It’s all just funny to me.
I guess when I get to that bridge, I shall cross it.
For now, all I do is LOL!!!
Lord help us all.
Temiville.xoxo
Sep 15, 2011 @ 14:30:15
Sounds like a plan but think about the fact that the cost of getting everyone on that list to the Bahamas, feeding and getting them accommodation would probably be the same or slightly over the cost of have an equally small wedding (say 50 – 100) in an exotic place people right here in Nigeria.
And 3 million for the cake? Please how much is a bag of flour? The biggest bag oh? Mscheetw
Sep 20, 2011 @ 10:09:53
Hahahaha! I shall found out the price of a bag of flour lol.
This thing does require careful thinking and reflection so as not to make unnecessary mistakes in terms of unwise expenditure.
Sep 20, 2011 @ 10:10:25
PS: what’s the pet project all about?
Sep 23, 2011 @ 09:39:03
Its neither an NGO nor an empowerment programme, just the name of my blog.
Sep 15, 2011 @ 14:40:20
3 million for a cake? It had better have the cure for HIV in it!
I’ve thought about a destination wedding too but im too cheap and if i’m going to spend the money i want to get the most out of it in terms of the actual ceremonies. The destination can be saved for the honeymoon
Honestly the only reason weddings are so expensive is because everybody (invited or not) wants to show face, chop food, then leave- some without even dropping a gift or even a greeting. That kind of thing won’t be happening at my wedding if/when it happens lol.
Sep 20, 2011 @ 10:02:34
LOL at ‘It had better have the cure for HIV in it!’ Jokes. If it happens keh? If you desire it, you shall have it Jesus’ name. Amen. I’m thinking of shelving the destination idea too.
Sep 15, 2011 @ 15:35:50
I think ill like that kinda wedding………….*side eye* HELL NO!! maybe something small but bahamas? me dont think so. ermmm, is that d 3m cake?
Sep 15, 2011 @ 18:02:37
3 million for one cake that will be finished in one day? OK o.
But for destination wedding, you still need to ship all those people to your venue and that can cost sha.
Sep 20, 2011 @ 10:49:47
I guess moderation is key. Most likely I shall stay in Naij.I dont see my dad agreeeing to such and mom, she shall just LOL!
Sep 15, 2011 @ 18:21:50
Nonsense upon ingredients. 3 million?
Sep 15, 2011 @ 18:54:48
3 Million for cake? Very annoying
Sep 20, 2011 @ 10:48:00
I’ve heard of worse prices J. Orisihirishi. to each is own sha. lol. Even if i have so much to spend, I’d rather ‘splash’ on something that won’t end up in the toilet bowl.
Sep 16, 2011 @ 07:23:41
trust me that is what we dream of. A little piece of me dies every time i hear my mother in law talk about oh the so many people my fiance and I have to invite. I want 200 guests but the elders insist we plan for 500. sucks big time
Go on and dream about your like i did mine but i say you insist and make it a reality for you
Sep 20, 2011 @ 09:52:26
OOOOHHHH! You getting married! Cool! Hope the preparation is not too stressful. I have some brides to be as friends and I see some of them getting so overwhelmed by it all. Go9d is your strength. Through it all, remember: The wedding is just an event. Real life continues when everyone leaves for their homes so please don’t get too worked up. It shall be well.
Sep 16, 2011 @ 10:47:29
3 million bucks for a cake? Now that’s something
Sep 20, 2011 @ 09:50:24
it is ooo
Sep 16, 2011 @ 17:04:32
i support you 100%. all this talk about shipping people to the destination…pay for your own ticket..after all, you can get a holiday out of it. I know someone who got married a few weeks ago in Barbados..everyone payed for their own ticket and accommodation. After the wedding, most people stayed on for a few extra days to do ‘touristy’ stuff. So, it can be done temi!
Sep 20, 2011 @ 09:50:18
LOL! I’d hate for ppl to spend too much of their own money so I might end up shelving the whole destination wedding idea. Someone explained that it might even end up being more expensive in the long run but really, things should be done in moderation, me thinks
Sep 19, 2011 @ 00:38:24
This is exactly what my sis wants… so similar… lol. I think that a very good way to think.. Wisdom hehehe.. real friends/family….
Investment is one of the keys ohhh
Sep 20, 2011 @ 09:43:20
Na so o Ibukun. One really needs to sit down and count cost cos to me (and most people), the marriage is more important than the wedding. I can’t spend all my money on a lavish ceremony and start hustling in marriage or managing when I could ve been wiser from the get go!
Sep 19, 2011 @ 00:38:46
keys to financial sustainment…
Sep 19, 2011 @ 21:00:32
3 million for cake? say wetin happen – abegi! lol I have considered destination wedding.. but mehn the bad mind that the family that cannot have will have is what worries me more lol plus its also expensive..
*sigh*… will cross that bridge when i get there – i pray i will bet ready to when the time comes lol
Sep 20, 2011 @ 09:37:29
lol! na so we see am
Oct 01, 2011 @ 15:19:20
3 million for a cake, OH YES and YES and YES……..I am cake maker and i charge that high for a cake and people pay, i don’t understand why my trade is rubbished…… I am an artist who decided to divert my ingenuity into cakes since the appreciation for art in this part of the world leaves little to be desired and the fashion industry has become very saturated with a mix of geniuses and mediocres, i chose to explore my creativity with cakes, with a masters degree I traveled the world over in to learn the art and the skills , working odd jobs at best cakes shops in England, America,Sweden et al…….I simply imported the skill and the business arrangement to my dear country and a few well traveled Nigerians who appreciate the quality of what obtains in these parts of the world patronizes with their millions asides multiplier effect on the industry as a whole…………and when you pay me, you do not pay for the bag of flour or sugar, you simply pay me for my expertise, my creativity, my time, my sweat, my sacrifices……the same way you will pay your artist for a classic painting or the likes of Alexia and Koshiba for the wedding gown you ll use for just one day ……..se lah
Oct 10, 2011 @ 08:41:52
Hey Breeze, your trade cannot be rubbished. We all love a good Red velvet cake. This was not in any way intended to be an attack on your work. Apologies if it sounded that way!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Oct 14, 2011 @ 14:22:45
Wonderful!!! I’ll be married for a month on the 17th of October and ours was a “rebel wedding”. Thr traditional wedding was a very big do as my parents were gracious enough to pay for it and my husband was so grateful that other than the traditional requirements (most of which were graciously waived for him) all he and his family had to do was show up.
The white wedding on the other hand was our thing and though my dad still took care of a part of the event…we were given a free hand to do our thing. First it was an invite only affair. Meaning no IV and name on guest list, no admission! Trust Naija people..they scowled and grumbled about that but who cares? It’s was OUR wedding, not a crusade. Hubby’s pastors a branch of a church so we invited ALL church workers, all married couples and few other friends from church. Then i invited few classmates from Uni whom i consider to be friends and we also had other people we consider to be our friends in the true sense of the word. And we crossed loads of peeps off the original guest list ‘cos at the end of the day, just because you said “hi” to me doesn’t make you my friend or qualify you to attend my wedding. We planned for 400 guests but at the end of the day we had about 250 plus vendors at the wedding. It was such an intimate ceremony.
Both sets of parents were given allowance to invite 30 guests each and they graciously complied. We knew exactly how many people the caterer was cooking for..we knew how many goody bags we would have left over after serving everyone. There were no strange photographers taking pictures and harassing guests to pay exorbitant amounts for them, there was no struggling for food and drinks and it was such an intimate affair. Oh, and we didnt spend 3M on our cake…lol
Oct 14, 2011 @ 14:34:16
Aww that sounds so sweet! I really thank God for you. May God bless and keep your home. May the Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you. May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace in all you do. May He give you the grace to keep being the Proverbs 31 woman.
Oct 15, 2011 @ 14:37:32
Thanks Temi and a big a….men! God bless you too..exceeding abundantly, far above you could ever hope for. xoxo
Oct 16, 2011 @ 02:34:57
3million for cake? lol don’t worry my aunt is a caterer she will make mine….
Oct 21, 2011 @ 01:07:20
Temi, are U̶̲̥̅̊ sure my dad (an Urhobo man) didn’t meet Ųя mom somewhere b4 they both met their present spouses? I’ve been singing this 50 guests song, to be comprised of close family α̲̅πϑ friends only,for years now. As Nutella (have the best marriage possible dear) said, just cos someone says hi to me doesn’t make us friends! I might increase to 100 if the groom insists, but I definitely do not want a crowd, α̲̅πϑ besides, there shd be enuff cash left 4 a sensational honeymoon α̲̅πϑ a wedding present from my hubby *wink*
Nov 23, 2011 @ 22:20:24
Oh boy, this has cracked me up and made my day. I have always wondered and dreamt about how much 9ja weddings cost. Especially the really grand ones, till today, no one can give me a figure. With a 3m cake, I can let my imagination go really wild to 100m (Please someone give me an idea). I wonder how far off I am. Got hitched last year, and wanted to skip the whole wedding hassles and just do a destination wedding/holiday for close friends/family (I figure, give everyone 1 years notice so save for their holiday! I did not mind being on honeymoon in the same country as family and friends, it would even make it more fun as long as we get the first few days to ourselves). Hubby was having none of that. Upgraded my spec to just do church and have a reception in a restaurant. Hubby to be was still having none of that.
I quickly drafted a budget of a normal wedding with 300 guests (I live in the UK so we can get a way with that kind of number. To the British man, that is a freaking huge wedding, I know I know, they haven’t seen a 9ja wedding yet), and told him the price tag for just the wedding excluding rings (I wasn’t compromising on my diamond, if we can pay for rice and chicken for people that will not call us again, then having a diamond was a small price to pay), honeymoon and any possible engagement cost came to between 25k – 30k. He quickly changed his mind. Luckily my dad hates big weddings and only wanted 50 peeps! We later compromised and ended up with 170 guest at an invite only wedding, did the trad in 9ja in my dads garden (parents paid for that and it was def way way way less than the 3m cake cost!). We paid for the white wedding ourselves so could call the shots. My mother, some family made all the noise in this world. As you put, anyone that I hadn’t spoken to in more than a year, did not make the cut! We ended up spending under 21k of our own cash and friends/family contributed/paid for about £3k (which I still thought was very very plenty, I know!) and that amount included the engagement ring (still got the 1carat diamond) and the honeymoon (We stayed in a 5 star hotel in a honeymoon destination country)! It was also a very very beautiful and classy wedding. We didn’t do aso ebi, just told friends the wedding theme and to interpret it and wear whatever they had in their wardrobe. We did not have a wedding gift list and instead friends opted to pay for little items for us for the wedding as gifts instead! No bridal train, just Best man/Maid of honor. And they both wore items they could wear again in the future without being labeled as a wedding outfit. Sold my wedding dress after ( a stunning outfit I might say that I was able to source for ½ the regular price!) Best of all, we knew every single person in attendance, and watching the video was wonderful coz every face there meant something to us! Now we can live our married life without hassles. Ironically, hubby lost his job couple of months after the wedding, so imagine if we had done something we couldn’t afford and had taken a loan or something! All for what?? Even if I had extra rich parents, God knows, I would persuade them to just give us the money so we can start a really good business or buy another property and rent it out! Anyway, that is my own extra long contribution
Jan 25, 2012 @ 09:44:18
3million for just cake…..mhn. it’s just too much. Save for your kids so that they get the best of life, not cake you’ll eat for just one day! Haba not fair @ all
Jan 25, 2012 @ 15:39:47
wow really funny. 3million for just cake even if it were made out of heavens finnest ingredents. well no matter hw xtra rich u think u r, i think every one should learn to be reasonable with spending cash even for ur wedding. u knw money is hard to cm by these days. as for a destination wedding its not really bad but remember its just the ceremony hw about living the married live. think and plan a about the future u really can tell what it will bring with it. if u really hv so much to spend there people out there u can help with it.
Feb 03, 2012 @ 20:31:55
the funny thing about this is that most gals dream of the wedding day and not the marriage life itself. Honest to God, I want less than 50 people at my wedding but I know that as a true yoruba babe and the only daughter in the family, that is a tall dream…..
if the wedding is going to be the typical 9ja wedding then the parents and the inlaws must be ready to go all the way cos am not going to settle for half measures but if them leave me to do my own thing, then it must be small, intimate and very classy….no settling for in between where some people go chop and some people no go chop.
As for the 3m cake, why not if the parents can afford it…..no be me dey pay now and who no like better thing….besides, as long as other things no suffer and hubby love for me na die…so why not, if not?