A while ago, some dude was on my case. He didn’t exactly voice it out but we girls know how these things work. There would be the usual random calls to find out how you are, asking you if you’ve eaten, then asking what is was that you ate which I usually find so annoying. Please don’t ask what I had for dinner. It doesn’t matter. Point is, there’s food in my belly. Anyways, I’m generally friendly (I believe) so I didn’t really mind the sudden showering on of attention. I wasn’t impressed neither was I put off. I was just there.
Our brother however ended up unveiling and voicing out his feelings one day right there in the Information Commons (our library). Trust me, I’m quite adept at handling unwanted emotions with coolness and calmness. I’m not one to spark because someone I don’t like likes me. Whoever it maybe, my mom warned me against speaking down at guys so I don’t ever do it. On this occasion, I stayed true to my upbringing. I didn’t scream, ‘But you just met me, how can you love me?!’, I didn’t hiss and walk off, I didn’t rain insults on him either. My mama taught me better than that. I really did not have anything to say considering the fact that he did not ask me out. He simply told me how he felt. He sounded sincere. I wasn’t interested anyways no
marra matter how sincere he came across.
Two weeks after this True Confessions Part 1, we had True Confessions Part 2. This one was the juicy part. I was going to Church for Choir Practice that Thursday evening from my house in the city centre. So dude decides to escort me in spite of my telling him not to bother. As we were walking, he goes, ‘Temi, there’s something I need to know before I take this friendship to the next level’. In my mind, I’m like ‘whish kain next level, boyalomo/little do you know. I ain’ interested dude!’. But I smile sweetly and ask him what this question is.
‘Are you AA or AS?’, he asked.
I lolled. As in I laughed out very loud. Don’t get me wrong, sickle cell anaemia is a serious disease and all but I was shocked that this was now part of this day and age’s toasting segments. Secondly, I was tickled by the way he asked me. He looked at me, offended that I would find such a serious topic funny. But I did, sorry.
Anyways, I decided to probe into the reason why he was asking me this question and he says, ‘Temi, I see you as someone I want to be serious with so I need to know’. In my over active mind, I lol once more.
I then look into his eyes, straight-faced and tell him slowly, ‘I am AS’. His face dropped. He looked so disappointed which made me laugh, internally however. Next thing I hear, ‘Oh Temi, I can’t escort you anymore, I need to do something at home’. I wondered wow, na so d tin do u?
To cut this long tale short, that was it. Our friend never called me again! I saw him one day in the library, he couldn’t see me. So I called his phone. I saw him pick it up, look at who was ringing and then promptly drop it back on the table. I then walked up to him to say hi. He felt so ashamed and rightfully so.
Anyways, this whole drama had me musing away…
Sickle Cell Anaemia is very serious. Let me shed some light on the disease.
Sickle cell anemia (uh-NEE-me-uh) is the most common form of sickle cell disease (SCD). SCD is a serious disorder in which the body makes sickle-shaped red blood cells. “Sickle-shaped” means that the red blood cells are shaped like a crescent.
Normal red blood cells are disc-shaped and look like doughnuts without holes in the center. They move easily through your blood vessels. Red blood cells contain hemoglobin (HEE-muh-glow-bin), an iron-rich protein that gives blood its red color. Hemoglobin carries oxygen from the lungs to the rest of the body.
Sickle cells contain abnormal hemoglobin that causes the cells to have a sickle, or crescent, shape. These cells don’t move easily through your blood vessels. They’re stiff and sticky and tend to form clumps and get stuck in the blood vessels. (Other cells also may play a role in this clumping process.)
The clumps of sickle cells block blood flow in the blood vessels in the limbs and organs. Blocked blood vessels can cause pain, serious infections, and organ damage.
(Culled from US Department of Health and Human Services Website)
According to science/medicine, if an AS has 4 babies by another AS, One of those kids may be SS, one will be AA, whilst the other two will be AS. The AS and the AA are fine. The issue lies with the one SS whose red blood cells are defective.
It must have been the thought of having SS children that scared this guy enough to practically run away from me.
This leads me to wonder…
Should we have a form that asks for Blood Group, Genotype etc before we are permitted to ‘like’ someone? In my case, it never mattered but I’m sure some girls/guys would have been harshly dumped by their partners simply because they just discovered that they were ‘incompatible’. Was this guy right for asking me for my genotype before bothering to ask me out? Some of my friends back then admired him for his forthrightness, I thought he was silly.
Where does belief in God come in? Do you ask a guy for his genotype so that you can block your mind off him before anything serious happens? Do you put your genotype as your Facebook status randomly so incompatible people know not to bother trespassing. Do you just like and subsequently fall in love with anyone hoping to high heavens all is going to be fine? If you are AS, would you break up with your partner/fiance or believe that you both will be fine by God’s grace and carry on with the relationship? Would you advise your sibling/friend to do likewise? What do you guys think? Let’s muse-a-long!
PS: This happened in Sheffield oh, for those of you trying to figure out who it is lol.
On a random note, I’m gbaduning Nigerian Idols. Some people have taken my breath AWAY both for good and bad reasons.
That’s all folks (for now)